Resisting Change!

Change is something that I find myself resisting so much and always, and it’s not just me but many others also. But perhaps this is one thing that one should not resist because it’s the only thing that will actually decide the course of our life. It’s the only thing that allows us to evolve, grow and perhaps also paints our lives with its different colors and shades.


If we look at nature we can see how much change is involved, nature is perhaps more alluring for the changes it shows with different weathers. The constant greenery of spring would have been boring if we did not see the barren trees in the winter. Then why are we so resistant to change? Why is it that we detest any change as soon as we get the hint of it? I think basically it is because of 2 prominent reasons.

Insecurity:

I guess it has to do with the basic human psychology of seeking security. We all as human being, the very core of us are very insecure. Have you ever wondered why does a new born baby clasps your finger with its little hands (medical reasons are there I know), but there also must be something which is psychological and may be that it is also trying to find a secure feeling.

Even grown up people like us may feel insecure because of the slightest of changes in our way of doing things. But we fail to understand that we may not be very sure of anything, sometimes not even the way we are :P. When we don’t know ourselves so well, why do we resist the change? Because we presume that we know what we want in our life, and what makes us happy.

To give an example a scenario like changing your current job. You will resist the idea because you are already into your comfort zone and are feeling secure there, Your fear of losing the familiar faces around you (though in reality they may not contribute to your career) and also the fear of not being able to adjust to the new place and new demands of the new work will make you feel overwhelmed. The fear of failure will be heavily in your mind and that is enough to build an insecure feeling in you and so you start resisting the change.

Laziness:

Oh yes, sometimes we don’t want to change simply because we don’t want to out any extra effort that is needed to set the things in order after a change, we are Lazy. One always wants to live in a peaceful slumber. Every change, no matter how small it is, will require us to do some work to make way for the old to go and the new thing to come in. But somehow we are lazy to do that, and in order to escape it we come up with beautiful reasons.

One of the changes that I have resisted for long is the one to read, recently I am trying to change that and hopefully I will find it making some impact in my life. I was always put off by the fact , that I have to sit in one place and read so many pages… so much of time is required and so much of effort. That whole feeling will become a roadblock and no matter how it is, I would have this averse feeling towards inculcating this habit.

The other one is waking up early and going for a jog. This one is a typical Laziness related resistance to change. I simply cannot come to terms with that to Stay Fit, I need to sacrifice those couple of hours of my beautiful sleep :P.

We need to welcome and accept the change and let it create the picture it wants to create. Life is beautiful if it is flowing free like a river, not when it is filled with only stillness of the lake. Because then the energy in you might get wasted and rotten. Its best use will be to make use of the energy. We just need to be preparing ourselves for the change.

Please feel free to share your thoughts on this subject and experiences and your views too.